Male Problems

 Emotions

    You are highly critical and self-aware of your identity and masculinity, finding your role as a male figure quite challenging. There are many expectations, rules, and standards you feel obligated to meet in order to gain acceptance from your parents, women, and society. You often experience guilt and shame when you explore any feminine aspects of yourself, as they are perceived as weaknesses.

    You may worry that embracing these feminine traits will make you appear weak and open to attack. Traditionally, men have been seen as providers, leaders, and authority figures. With these roles come significant responsibilities, burdens, and the pressure to provide. The success of your family’s well-being, education, and care weighs heavily on you. There is a strong sense of shame and humiliation when you feel you haven't lived up to the expectations of influential figures, particularly if you have experienced job loss, a decrease in income, or a loss of status.

    This might stem from the loss of a job, income, or a significant position. Your sense of self is deeply connected to financial stability, being a protector, and making important decisions. Many men take their role as a provider so seriously that losing a job and the ability to support their family can lead to extreme despair, even to the point of considering suicide. The shame and trauma of feeling like they've failed their family can be an overwhelming burden to carry alone.

    From a young age, men are often taught to be tough, resilient, and able to withstand the harshest circumstances. During childhood, you may not have been allowed to cry, complain, or express your emotions, as these were seen as signs of weakness that could invite punishment, ridicule, or even physical attack.

Key points : 

• Feeling obligated to provide, remain in control, and display strength while juggling numerous responsibilities with others relying on you. How does this affect you? Reflect on any feelings of being overwhelmed.
• Why do you feel the need to act in a particular way and take on so many responsibilities? What would happen if you shared the burden? Think about any guilt, shame, or fear of failure that might arise.
• Did you observe your father under immense pressure and obligation? How could repeating this pattern impact you, and what holds you back from changing this behavior?
• Did your father fall short in his responsibilities within the family, causing you to take on the male role during your childhood? How did that shape you emotionally?
•  Did your mother or influential female figures shame you, leading to relationship difficulties with women and challenges to your ego and self-worth? Explore these possibilities.
•  Have you been criticized or judged for showing feminine qualities? If so, reflect on how that made you feel.
•  Have you lost a job or position of authority? If so, how did that experience affect you?
•  What benefits do you find in carrying so many responsibilities and burdens? Do you feel more accepted, loved, or respected because of it? Consider how your ego might be driving your need for control. Examine any control issues.
•  Do you feel the need to control everything? If so, why? How does this make you feel? Was there an event that made you believe you need to be in control? Does it provide you with a sense of security? Delve into these questions.
•  Reflect on your sense of self-worth. Who challenged it, and how did that affect you?
•  How do you feel about your feminine side? Are you comfortable exploring it, or do you experience discomfort or resistance?
•  Do you feel intimidated or dominated by a spouse or women in general? If so, why? Consider these possibilities.
•  Do you feel pressured to live and act in ways that don’t align with your true self? How does this affect you, and what might change if you no longer felt this pressure?